I am an advocate of emotional intelligence in pursuing your personal development. I believe that the better we understand Emotional Intelligence ( EI ), the more effective we can become at our various roles in our lives. In this maiden post of Talent Reach, we take a look at the importance of emotional intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is an assortment of mental abilities and skills that can help you to successfully manage both yourself and demands of working with others.
Developing your own EI enables you to:
- Know yourself reasonably well
- Control your own emotions
- Show empathy with the feelings of others
- Use social skills in an effective was well as simply pleasant ways.
Emotional Quotient ( EQ ) is the score we generate when take an assessment. One example of this assessment is delivered by Talent Smart, the World’s Premier Provider of EQ Assessments and Training. This is headed by Dr. Travis Bradberry who is the co-author of the best-selling book Emotional Intelligence 2.0. This can be taken through the book or through on-line as well.
Famous EQ Illustration
Known as ‘the marshmallow studies’ research conducted by Stanford University involved a class of four-year old. They were asked to remain in a room while the researcherwent out for a period of time. The children were given a marshmallow each and asked to wait. If they resisted the temptation to eat it, they would be rewarded with a second marshmallow on the researcher’s return. Some children were able to resist and some were not.
The researchers located the children 10 years after the experiment and found that those who had resisted the temptation to eat the lone marshmallow had achieved a significantly higher SAT score. This demonstrated the higher innate emotional intelligence in those that waited.
Millionaire’s Opinions about EQ and IQ
In the book, The Millionaire Mind by best-selling author Thomas Stanley ( 2001), he reported the findings of a survey of 733 multi-millionaires throughout the United States. When asked to rate the factors ( out 0f 30 ) most responsible for their success, the top five were:
- Being honest with people
- Being well disciplined
- Getting along with people
- Having a supportive spouse
- Working harder than most people
All five are reflections of emotional intelligence. Good marital relations are heavily influenced by emotional intelligence. IQ was down the list and endorsed by only 20 percent of the multimillionaires.
IQ is stable but EQ can develop
One major difference between cognitive and emotional intelligence is that IQ is pretty much set. IQ tends to peak when a person is about age 17, remains constant throughout adulthood and wanes duing old age. EQ can be developed throughout our adult life.
EQ is not Personality
EQ is not the same as personality which is the unique set of traits that help a person’s characeteristic, enduring and dependable ways of thinking, feeling and behaving. Personality is hte concept most often confused with emotional intelligence. It differs in two ways. First, just like IQ, the traits in our personality are relatively fixed. EQ, on the other hand, concerns behaviors and skills, things we learn and can always change. Second, emotional intelligence unliked personality is made up of short-term tactical skills that can be brought into play as the situation warrants.
In a competitive world, organizations want to recruit, retain the best talent they can. At a personal level , people want what is best for them, their families, peer groups and others would affect their lives.
In conclusion, we can see how Emotional Intelligence affects our daily lives at work, achieving wealth and happiness and creating meaningul relationships in the workplace and at home.
Ronaldo Turla is a Certified Trainer of Emotional Intelligence by Talent Smart. He is also a Management Consultant in the Philippines and specializes on Human Resource and Organization Development.